As I had anticipated, I’m not terribly consistent or prolific about my blogging, apparently. It’s been almost a month since I started this blog, and I basically haven’t touched it since the initial post. “Bad Lena, no cookie for you,” you may be thinking, but I would argue that the upside of this is that now I have quite a bit to write about.
For example, since last we spoke, constant reader, I have learned the art of DJing on the grid, gotten employment doing so at a lovely little nightclub called MsCherri’s (I’ll post the hours for my regular DJ sets and the SLurl at the end, if you ever want to come in and see me), and am now working as a dancer and escort at three wonderful Gentlemen’s Clubs (okay, I’ll include SLurls for them too, twist my arm). I’ve been bitten by a very charming vampire bunny, ridden a motorcycle, lost my inworld virginity (woo hoo!), made lots of new friends, shopped WAY too much, given a fox a lapdance, and officially started escorting. Whew! It was a busy month, and the holidays right smack in the middle of all that.
Of course, it hasn’t all been sunshine and roses- there have been frustrating or upsetting moments, too. I got to see inworld trolls in action for the first time, and although they didn’t upset me terribly much, I could see how disruptive they were to the environment in general, and I know that some of the others in the venue were much more disturbed or offended than I was. I was told by one person that my voice on mike sounds like “a tranny”, and by another that I sound like a man. I’ve been told that I shouldn’t be a stripper on the grid unless I’m willing to give my avi more exaggerated curves. I’ve been called a “stupid newb” (newb, yes, stupid, no), and I’ve been told that I’m basically a con artist or scammer because I solicit L$ from other users.
In other words, I’ve learned that both on the grid and in the real, people are still people. The very things that attract me to SecondLife- the freedom to try new things without the physical and social limitations I deal with in the real, the relative anonymity, the basic lack of a “permanent record”, and the option of having multiple identities, not all necessarily publicly connected to each other- are the same things that make it a magnet for troublemakers and those who want to behave badly without having to face consequences, beyond being banned from a particular venue or blocked by an individual user. Given that all you need to create an alt is a new email address, and that free email addresses are thick on the ground, it’s not hard to see the potential for abuse.
I’m sure that plenty of people with far more experience than I have written volumes on the subject of trolls, so I won’t bother. All I will say is that my personal philosophy is that kindness doesn’t cost a damn thing, and I sprinkle that shit EVERYWHERE. I find that, like a light air freshener, it mildly improves my quality of life virtually everywhere. Sure, I have bad days, and I am not a saint, but I strive to be patient and kind, and to understand the points of view of others, even if I can’t agree with them.
It just so happens that today is the 3 month anniversary of my rezz date, a fact which is almost certainly more exciting to me than anyone else, but I can’t help being proud of what I’ve done so far. I have a home that I decorated, and that makes me happy on the admittedly rare occasions that I’m there for any length of time. I put in the effort to make my avatar look the way I want to look, and I get compliments on it from time to time, which swell my head and make me blush. I’ve developed new skills, found gainful employment, and found excuses to study new languages. I have a wardrobe that is frankly ridiculous and have discovered that, at least in this life, I am obsessed with hosiery. I don’t know why, but I’m proud that my avi is mesh, and that my head and hands are Bento. My landmarks folder has grown by leaps and bounds, and I’ve barely scratched the surface of all there is to explore inworld.
So today, I intend to celebrate! I’m going to DJ, dance on all three stages, hug my friends, go somewhere new, and basically party like a rock star. Because I can. Because it’s MY SecondLife, and I intend to live it to the fullest.
And now, as promised, here are the SLurls and the hours for my regular gigs inworld:
MsCherri’s:http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Hixxy/248/244/410 Friday 10am-noon SLT, Saturday and Sunday 12-2pm SLT, DJing
Angels Gentlemen’s Club:http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Angel%20Isle/132/165/29 Saturdays 4-6pm, Hosting regular weekly themed events (This week’s theme is Cops and Robbers!)
Cheetah’s Gentlemen’s Club: http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Larius%20River/233/46/2501
PLUSH Gentlemen’s Club:http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Plush/227/227/1983